My guest this week is Vicky Vanstone - a Brit who is living in Australia
Vicky was a binge drinker whose identity was pretty much as a "party animal"
However like many young women she found the transition from party animal to stay at home mom a very difficult one and eventually decided to stop drinking completely - and now she inspires other moms to get "sober curious"
In this Episode
Vicky had surrounded herself with other drinkers so her binge drinking was completely normalized
As a party animal she enjoyed recounting funny stories from the night before
Things changed for Vicky when she had her first child - motherhood introduced an element of shame into the morning after
She felt hugely anxious and guilty that she was struggling to look after the baby when she was hungover
These emotions led her to becoming "sober curious" at the age of 34
We agreed that the "sober curious" movement is hugely helpful as it implies that we can get off the slippery slope
We don't have to hit "rock bottom" and become an "alcoholic" before we make some changes
For Vicky the transition from independent party girl to stay at home mom was a huge shock - as it is for many women
She believes that's where the mommyjuice culture comes from - the need for a release from the stress and boredom
Motherhood is a tricky mix of mndane tasks and huge responsibility and women need more information to prepare them for that
Just as drinking is glamorised by the media so is motherhood - which makes reality an even bigger shock
Vicky got some help by going to a therapist - she learned that she had to value herself rather than "people pleasing"
She has now been alcohol free for 2 years and has her own podcast called "Sober Awkward"