Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol free life!
The Magic of Meditation - with Lane Kennedy

The Magic of Meditation - with Lane Kennedy

July 24, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

This week my guest is Lane Kennedy.  A mother in long term recovery she is a podcaster who has used meditation as a vital tool in her recovery journey.  She now helps others to learn how to meditate.

Lane quit drinking in 1996 so is 25 years in recovery.

In this Episode

  • Lane describes her drinking life as glamorous and great fun - until it wasn't
  • Her drinking was inconsistent - she would sometimes only have two glasses - on other days she would drink to blackout
  • She did notice that she drank differently from her friends
  • Although she lived in a big house in Hollywood Hills and had lots of "stuff" but she wasn't happy - drank to figure out why
  • She didn't have a specific "rock bottom" but knew her whole life was falling apart
  • Some well meaning friends tricked her attending an AA meeting, where she heard the message of recovery for the first time
  • It took her a year to get sober - up to 90 days it was really difficult and she missed alcohol which was her coping mechanism
  • 9/11 changed her life - she left the US and joined a Buddhist retreat in Thailand - looking for safety
  • She realised that in fact the only safety any of us will find is deep within ourselves - and meditation enables us to reach that place
  • Meditation got her to the place she was looking for when she was drinking - a place of peace
  • Lane now believes that meditation and mindfulness are keys to handling addiction
  • She has a podcast called "Recover like a Mother" which includes episodes devoted to meditations
  • We discussed the "mommyjuice" syndrome - and how motherhood is glamorised via social media 
  • We talked about the importance of sober influencers - Lane's podcast provides a platform for sober moms to spread the word
  • Lane has a podcast and a website - recoverlikeamother.com
  • Lane is thrilled about the rise of the Sober Curious movement which enables more people to find the space to try sobriety
  • Joining Tribe Sober is a great way to start your Sober Curious journey - find out more on tribesober.com
  • We'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community
  • Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

  • Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

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Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

Sobriety and the Domino Effect - with Will Black

Sobriety and the Domino Effect - with Will Black

July 17, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

This week my guest is Will Black.  He is a Life Mastery Coach and a registered Yoga teacher.

He was clever enough to realise that alcohol was not serving him at an early age and these days his life and work is guided by the ethos of finding balance.

Will’s mission is to help people to overcome their limiting beliefs and behaviours so thay can live balanced intentional lives.

In this Episode

from almost the first time he drank it  and lost some of his friends.

  • From almost the first time Will drank it was apparent that he was going to develop a problem – he had blackouts, guilt and remorse   
  • He was sensible enough to realise that he had to quit but had no idea how he was going to make a change
  • Like many of us he put the moderation “rules” in place – and like many of us proceeded to break those rules!
  • Will raised the interesting point that for many of us we use booze because we want to “break free”
  • One or two glasses of wine won’t get us to that place so that’s why end up breaking the moderation rules.
  • We agreed that when we get to the stage of wondering if we have a problem with alcohol the answer is Yes!  
  • Of course Will was worried about life without booze would be a kind of “half life” – no friends, no fun no relationship! 
  • The foundation to Will's sobriety was fitness and meditation - he watched videos, listened to podcasts - did it alone
  • He now realizes that it would have been easier if he had found a community and connected with others who had done this
  • His first year was difficult and he felt awkward and weird at social events but he persevered and it got easier
  • He explained how meditation helps in early sobriety as we learn to become an observer of our thoughts  
  • Will raised the interesting point that when we drink we are trying to calm our mind – meditation does that, but in a healthy way
  • Yoga, meditation and physical activities are ideal as they will reduce the dopamine deficit which hits us in early sobriety.
  • He talked about the Domino Effect – quit drinking and you will start looking at other parts of your life 
  • You can find Will on IG – The Balanced Self and his website is WillOwenBlack.com – he teaches yoga and is a coach
  • Although Will got sober alone it was an uphill battle – with hindsight he recommends that people connect with a group
  • Tribe sober is one of those groups and we’ve been changing lives for five years now.  Why not check us out on tribesober.com
  • Joining Tribe Sober is a great way to start your Sober Curious journey
  • We'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community
  • Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

  • Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

If you enjoyed the podcast then please leave us a 5 star review on Apple podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page - we'll send you something special to say thank you!

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

How a Sober Buddy can Help - Lynne Brown, Sober Buddy Mentor

How a Sober Buddy can Help - Lynne Brown, Sober Buddy Mentor

July 10, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is Lynne Brown - our very own Sober Buddy Mentor!  A Brit like me Lynne came to South Africa 20 years ago and fell in love with this beautiful country!  She is also a volunteer Alcohol Counsellor in the UK.

In this Episode

  • Lynne never had a “rock bottom” – she just became more aware that she always felt a bit “below par”
  • She was aware that giving up alcohol would improve her health - and indeed it has
  • She was drawn to learning more about addiction and she realized she could help others who were struggling
  • Lynne has experienced considerable benefits since she went alcohol free – she sleeps much better and can eat more!
  • We talked about the massive increase in alcohol problems in the UK during the pandemic - and the difficulty of making a change
  • We have to reconfigure our lives when we stop drinking – especially if our lives have revolved around alcohol related activities.
  • This has been really hard during lockdown of course –  fewer opportunities to meet new people or develop new interests
  • We talked about Tribe Sober’s Sober Buddy program – it all began because some people who got sober wanted to stick around
  • Our "graduates" wanted the personal connection but also to help new people or people who were struggling 
  • The Sober Buddy program was informal at first but then Lynne came along and put some order in the system!
  • We now have pictures and bios of all our Sober Buddies on the website - together with guidelines 
  • As a qualified counsellor Lynne has been able to offer support and advice to our Sober Buddies
  • Joining Tribe Sober is a great way to start your Sober Curious journey
  • We'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community
  • Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

  • Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

If you enjoyed the podcast then please leave us a 5 star review on Apple podcasts, take a screenshot of your review and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page - we'll send you something special to say thank you!

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

Why we get Hangxiety - William Porter explains

Why we get Hangxiety - William Porter explains

July 3, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is William  Porter - a lawyer with a passionate interest in the science behind alcohol dependency.  He has written two books on the subject - Alcohol Explained and Alcohol Explained 2.

In this Episode

  • William started drinking and smoking at the tender age of 14!
  • He managed to give up smoking by reading the book by Alan Carr - he was impressed by the methodology in that book
  • He managed to quit drinking after delving into the science of dependency - and discovering just how harmful alcohol is
  • We talked about "hangxiety" and how it's caused by chemical changes in our brain - when it becomes over-sensitised
  • If you drink a bottle of wine every night then your brain will take the first glass as a signal that the rest of the bottle is coming!
  • That's why moderation is so difficult - and it's exhausting as we are thinking about it all the time
  • Cravings happen when we have a thought about drinking and then we start fantasising about that drink
  • The joy of giving up altogether is that we don't entertain the idea of a drink so the cravings fade away
  • Dependency happens once we learn (consciously or subsconsciously) that another drink will quell the anxiety caused by the first
  • William explained FAB - Fading Affect Bias - when we think back fondly about our drinking days - and forget how bad we were
  • FAB is responsible for many people falling off the wagon as they think they can now have "just one" - which is not sustainable
  • Rather than worrying that we are an "alcoholic" William suggests we consider whether alcohol is taking away more than it gives us
  • We both agreed that "sober socialising" is tough but that the best way to cope is to "feel the awkward and do it anyway"
  • He explained why it's a complete myth that alcohol helps you sleep - the truth is that it ruins our sleep!
  • His advice to people who want to stop is to write down all the reasons they want to drink - and realise they are all false beliefs
  • You can purchase Williams books from his website - alcoholexplained.com - download first five chapters for free
  • Joining Tribe Sober is also a great way to start your Sober Curious journey
  • We'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community
  • Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

Exploring Sobriety Rooms in Clubhouse - with Justin Lamb

Exploring Sobriety Rooms in Clubhouse - with Justin Lamb

June 26, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is Justin Lamb - podcaster, musician, asset management professional and therapist in training!

In this Episode

  • Justin grew up with an alcoholic father and his brother was also using - like many of us he started using alcohol to socialise
  • A medical diagnosis of auto-immune disease forced him to quit drinking for five months - he was anxious to restart!
  • He managed to stop drinking by educating himself about the harm it does - he went on a course about substance abuse
  • Justin has experienced many benefits of sobriety.  He feels gratitude that he is now able to "feel what I feel" - whether love or pain
  • He is now able to better follow things through and complete his projects - he came up with a nice metaphor involving kayaking..
  • We talked about the normalisation of alcohol and how pharmaceutical drugs on US tv list the side effects - not not alcohol
  • His advice about dealing with peer pressure is to take control early on - don't be shy about your sobriety!
  • These days Justin is happy to hang out with responsible drinkers - but not the heavy drinkers.
  • Although he got sober alone he is now enjoying the community support he is finding in the Clubhouse rooms.
  • We discussed the value of Clubhouse and how people will be able to hear recovery tips and stories without going to meetings
  • Justin has a podcast called Friend Request and you can follow him on Instagram @friendrequestpodcast
  • We also agreed that people are far more likely to identify themselves as "Sober Curious" than "Alcoholics"
  • Joining Tribe Sober is a great way to start your Sober Curious journey
  • We'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also allows you to find your people as we welcome you into our supportive community
  • Just go to tribesober.com and hit the "join our tribe" button to read more about the benefits of membership

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our "Annual Tracker" or our e-book "66 Days to Sobriety" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

Are you Physically (or Psychologically) Addicted to Alcohol? - Molly Watts explains

Are you Physically (or Psychologically) Addicted to Alcohol? - Molly Watts explains

June 19, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is Molly Watts, a senior living specialist who believes that we can create habits which will lead to a longer and healthier life.  

Going alcohol free is a healthy habit which will certainly help! 

In this Episode

  • Molly was just 13 when she first challenged her mom about her drinking - and talks about growing up with an alcoholic mom
  • Her mom continued to drink in spite of going to rehab 4 times - she died from an alcoholic binge at the age of 80
  • In spite of witnessing the damage that alcohol can do Molly went on to develop a drinking habit of her own
  • She never hit "rock bottom" but she was drinking 3 or 4 glasses of wine every evening which was draining her energy/motivation
  • Like many of us Molly had a constant nagging voice in her head about her drinking - was following in her moms footsteps?
  • However she worked hard at making a change and now has a "peaceful" relationship with alcohol
  • She began to understand that she was drinking as a buffer to deal with emotions - stress and overwhelm
  • Molly realised that her drinking habit was in conflict with her passion project which was all about healthy and positive ageing
  • She is a self confessed science geek and her key to changing her drinking habit was information
  • The more she learned about alcohol the less the felt like drinking it!
  • Molly talked me through what happens in our brains when we have a drink - and why we end up with Hangxiety
  • She emphasised that there are absolutely no health benefits to alcohol - in spite of what the media tell us about red wine!
  • Every time we drink we act as our own "petri dish" - as the alcohol has a different effect 
  • Molly explained that less than 10% of people who drink too much are physically addicted 
  • She talked about the DSM and how it examines your relationship with alcohol
  • We agreed that the best way to make a change was to get "sober curious" - joining Tribe Sober is a great way to start!
  • Join Tribe Sober and we'll put you on a 30 day alcohol free challenge so you can test your dependency
  • Membership also gives you access to a wealth of information in the "Members Area" of our website 

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our"Annual Tracker" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

My Battle with the Booze - a Doctor’s Story

My Battle with the Booze - a Doctor’s Story

June 12, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is Dr Stephan Neff - a German who is living in New Zealand

Stephan began to drink heavily at university and carried on into his twenties and thirties

The medical profession was demanding and he used alcohol to cope with stress

 

In this Episode

  • At the age of 35 Stephan realised that his drinking was becoming problematic but pushed it to the back of his mind
  • Alcohol was numbing the pain and giving him a temporary respite from the stress
  • His wife also drank a lot - they were both A type personalities - striving to succeed - using alcohol to relax
  • Stephan's wife managed to stop drinking and then began to urge him to make a change but with no success
  • He was getting worse and worse - not enough alcohol to numb the pain
  • Stephan hit rock bottom one night and was found crying in his garage - his wife arranged for him to go to rehab two days later
  • She issued him an ultimatum - he would lose his family if he didn't go to rehab - he felt relieved but also full of shame
  • Not everybody has to hit "rock bottom" before they make a change - get some help and join tribe sober
  • Rehab was life changing for Stephan - in the bubble of rehab for 4 weeks - everything changed 
  • The staff were great - many of the staff were ex-addicts who were clean and thriving - they inspired him
  • Stephan felt that he was being "listened to" and could "speak his truth" finally
  • We offer a complimentary recovery coaching session to our members so they can experience the power of being listened to
  • As part of his treatment he wrote a letter which was full of grievances - to help him deal with his resentment and anger
  • Coming out of rehab was a bit of an anti-climax - nobody was that interested - he had to "walk the talk" to show he had changed
  • Stephan has learned to avoid HALT - being Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired - which is could trigger him 
  • He talked about the difference between a "lapse" and a full blown "relapse"- after a lapse we need to "get curious"
  • Our annual trackers help our members to get stay on track after a lapse - if you'd like an annual tracker - janet@tribesober.com
  • In his book "Steps to Sobriety" he goes into details about relapses and what causes them - often a lack of self care
  • Stephan has a podcast called "Into the Light" and a You Tube channel
  • Treat a craving as a wave in the ocean - surf it rather than let it drown you!

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6/$8Aus) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our"Annual Tracker" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today. 

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you 

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

From Party Animal to Mom of Three - Vicky Vanstone

From Party Animal to Mom of Three - Vicky Vanstone

June 5, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is Vicky Vanstone - a Brit who is living in Australia

Vicky was a binge drinker whose identity was pretty much as a "party animal"

However like many young women she found the transition from party animal to stay at home mom a very difficult one and eventually decided to stop drinking completely - and now she inspires other moms to get "sober curious"

 

In this Episode

  • Vicky had surrounded herself with other drinkers so her binge drinking was completely normalized
  • As a party animal she enjoyed recounting funny stories from the night before
  • Things changed for Vicky when she had her first child - motherhood introduced an element of shame into the morning after
  • She felt hugely anxious and guilty that she was struggling to look after the baby when she was hungover
  • These emotions led her to becoming "sober curious" at the age of 34
  • We agreed that the "sober curious" movement is hugely helpful as it implies that we can get off the slippery slope 
  • We don't have to hit "rock bottom" and become an "alcoholic" before we make some changes
  • For Vicky the transition from independent party girl to stay at home mom was a huge shock - as it is for many women
  • She believes that's where the mommyjuice culture comes from - the need for a release from the stress and boredom
  • Motherhood is a tricky mix of mndane tasks and huge responsibility and women need more information to prepare them for that
  • Just as drinking is glamorised by the media so is motherhood - which makes reality an even bigger shock
  • Vicky got some help by going to a therapist - she learned that she had to value herself rather than "people pleasing"
  • She has now been alcohol free for 2 years and has her own podcast called "Sober Awkward"
  • Vicky's website is www.drunkmummysobermummy.com and she also has a FB group
  • Joining Tribe Sober is also a great way to start your sober curious journey..

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our"Annual Tracker" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today. 

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you - calendar on homepage of tribesober.com

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - we are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

How Ditching the Drink set me Free - Loyiso Mkele

How Ditching the Drink set me Free - Loyiso Mkele

May 29, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is the lovely Loyiso Mkele.

We met long before I started Tribe Sober and we had no idea that we had a "drink problem" in common ;-)

However once I managed to stop drinking and started Tribe Sober, Loyiso reached out for help.

She's been sober for two years and is thriving in her alcohol free life - have a listen to how she did it!

 

In this Episode

  • For 13 years Loyso was drinking at least a bottle of wine a day - she knew the problem would just get worse
  • She knew she would have to make a change but had no idea HOW to make the change
  • One day she heard me on the radio and because she knew me personally that shocked her into action -
  • Loyiso realised that there was a support group for people like her
  • Coming to the workshop was a huge relief for Loyiso - not only had she found her tribe but she now had a practical toolkit
  • By using the toolkit and connecting with the tribe she was able to stop drinking - she loved the sense of community
  • She was inspired by people who were hitting their milestones - and eventually became a role model herself
  • She is now a Sober Buddy with two years of sobriety and enjoys helping our newbies to get started
  • Loyiso had some tips for people starting out - find your people and connect with them daily.
  • Immerse yourself in quitlit and podcasts - expect to be tired for a while and to get cravings for sweet things - eat fruit!
  • Remember that alcohol free wine is your friend - take it out with you and use it at home when you would normally have a drink

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our"Annual Tracker" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today. 

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you - calendar on homepage of tribesober.com

        

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Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

Six Years of Sobriety - my Six Biggest Challenges   - Janet Gourand

Six Years of Sobriety - my Six Biggest Challenges - Janet Gourand

May 22, 2021

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

This weekend is a special one for me - my sixth soberversary!

So I'm talking about my six biggest challenges - and how I overcame them.

In this Episode

  • I summarise my story of how I got hooked on the booze and why I decided to make a change
  • Then I go through my six biggest challenges and how I overcame them
  • CHALLENGE 1 - Finding my People. I tried for many years to give up drinking alone but finally reached out for help and connection
  • CHALLENGE 2 - Keeping Perspective - accepting that it was going to take time - first year about "not drinking" then going deeper
  • CHALLENGE 3 - Dealing with Emotions - I had learn to cope with my emotions - to get comfortable with being uncomfortable
  • CHALLENGE 4 - Dealing with Anhedonia - in early sobriety I struggled to find pleasure in anything - I had to push through this
  • CHALLENGE 5 - Saying Goodbye to my Best Friend - I drew a line under my drinking years by writing a "goodbye to alcohol" letter
  • CHALLENGE 6 - Finding my purpose - I had to embrace my alcohol free life and discover new interests and passions
  • I linked a tip with each of my challenges which I hope will help others on this journey

    More info

    Subscription membership for Tribe Sober is just R85 (£4/$6) a month - you can join up HERE

  • To access our website click HERE
  • If you would like a free copy of our"Annual Tracker" please email janet@tribesober.com
  • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community just email janet@tribesober.com

    Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then 
          sign up today. 

          Read more about our 7-step program and subscribe HERE

          Book a Discovery Call with me to find out if our membership would help you - calendar on homepage of tribesober.com

        

 Help us to spread the word!

We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share.

We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and join our Tribe Sober Club on Clubhouse - are on Clubhouse every Sunday afternoon at 5pm SA time so come join the conversation.

You can catch our FB live on Saturday mornings (11am SAST) and you can join our private Facebook group HERE

Thank you for listening! 

Till Next Week

Janet x

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