Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol free life!

Three Months to Freedom!

On this weeks solo episode I talk about our 3-month Breaking Free program which we run just three times a year. 
Registration for the current program is open   - more info on tribesober.com
We limit each Breaking Free group to 20 so you’ll always get personal attention
In this episode:-
I talk about the warning signs of alcohol dependence as well as the benefits of an alcohol free lifestyle
The Breaking Free program has four components…
Four pieces of a puzzle that come together to create a transformation…
The first piece of the puzzle is Community Support so we connect you with the other people on the Breaking Free program
 We put you in a chatgroup with where you’ll also find some TS team members to answer any questions you may have
You'll also be invited to several Zoom meetings every week
The second piece is our Masterclass – a group session which we hold via Zoom.  Another opportunity to get to know the other people on the program as everyone will share their story at the beginning of the session.  By the end of the Masterclass you’ll understand:-
The importance of a mindset change and the damage alcohol does to our health
We’ll be sharing our tried and tested sobriety toolkit and you’ll end the session feeling motivated and excited about the changes ahead.
While the Masterclass will give you an overview of the Tribe Sober approach to thriving in sobriety the online course will enable you to dive deeper at your own pace.  You’ll get all the theory and training you need to overturn your limiting beliefs around alcohol which is the key….
Just as we’ve been programmed into thinking that alcohol is an essential part of our daily lives our online program will de-program you and enable you to understand that you will be happier and healthier without it!
The third piece is our online course which includes videos, podcasts, articles and book recommendations so you’ll be able to throw the book at your sobriety – you’ll be able to treat it as a 3-month project that will take a deep dive into psychology, biology and neuroscience - a project that will change the trajectory of your future.
The fourth part of the puzzle is the personal support. 
You’ll have a 1.2.1 Zoom call with Monica who will explain how everything work and help you with any tech issues
Mid-way through the 3 month program you'll have a session with Coach Lynette to review learnings so far
A final session with our Coach Darren who will discuss how you are applying the theory of the Breaking Free program to your daily life
So that’s the four pieces of our Breaking Free puzzle, four pieces that will come together to create an alcohol free lifestyle that you love..
Apart from creating a program that will get results we’ve created a program that is flexible and will fit in with your busy lives…. 
All of the 1.2.1’s can be scheduled to suit your convenience, the online course can be worked through at your own pace so the only timeslot you need to fit in is the Masterclass. (we can send you a recording if  you can't make it)
While we’re on the subject of time that’s one of the unexpected benefits of sobriety….. when we no longer spend time drinking and recovering from the drinking we find ourselves with extra time on our hands….
As well as the energy to do something constructive with that time!
Registration for the current Breaking Free program is open - more info on tribesober.com
More Info
Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.
To access our website, click HERE.
If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.
If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.
 
Episode Sponsor
This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up todayRead more about our program and subscribe HERE
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ADHD and Alcohol with Liz

Today’s guest is Liz, a 51-year-old writer living in the UK, who joins us to share her story about gray area drinking, late-diagnosed ADHD, and finding freedom through an alcohol-free life.
In this episode:
Liz explained how alcohol gradually became woven into every aspect of her life She reflected on years spent trying to moderate, feeling deprived on non-drinking days 
We explored how late-diagnosed ADHD and perimenopause created the “perfect storm,”
Liz explained how discovering the neurological connection between ADHD and alcohol helped her replace shame with understanding and self-compassion.
why moderation often creates more mental turmoil than freedom
Liz also spoke warmly about the role of the Tribe Sober community, the Breaking Free course and friendships formed in sobriety.
We’ve just opened up our tenth Breaking Free program for enrolment so you can find more info on our website or just email me janet@tribesober.com
You can join our 7 day Reset program by clicking on this link 
One of the most powerful parts of the conversation is Liz’s realization that sobriety does not remove joy - it allows genuine joy to re-emerge.
She describes feeling freer, calmer, more authentic and more hopeful about the future than she has in years.
You can contact Liz via her blog - here is the link 
More Info
This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up todayRead more about our program and subscribe HERE
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Creating from the Future Instead of the Past

Creating From the Future Instead of the Past
Why the Brain Chooses Alcohol and How Recovery Rewires Us
In this week’s episode, Lynette explores why lasting sobriety is not simply about willpower — it’s about understanding how the brain works.
Our brains are prediction-making machines. They are constantly reaching for what feels familiar, even when those familiar patterns are hurting us. Alcohol, overthinking, scrolling, numbing, people pleasing, avoidance — these can all become practiced neural pathways that the brain automatically returns to in moments of stress, uncertainty, or emotional discomfort.
In this deeply reflective episode, Lynette explores:
Why the brain confuses familiar with safe
How automatic thought patterns like “I deserve it” become conditioned pathways
The role of uncertainty in addiction and emotional coping
Why awareness is the first step in rewiring
The “vending machine brain” metaphor and how we begin stocking the mind differently
How tiny repeated choices reshape identity and emotional resilience
Why recovery is repetition, not perfection
The power of community, support, and nervous system regulation in healing
How Tribe Sober, Path to Purpose, and Positive Intelligence help create lasting transformation
Lynette also shares the story of “Lisa,” a woman beginning her sober journey and learning to recognize voices like Association Alice, Moderation Mary, and the Wine Witch — and how catching these patterns begins changing the brain itself.
This episode is an invitation to stop living from autopilot and begin creating consciously from the future instead of the past.
In this episode:
“The brain predicts from the past. Recovery asks us to create from the future.”
Why the thoughts you practice become the thoughts your brain prefers
The neuroscience behind habit loops and emotional survival patterns
How small daily shifts create profound identity change over time
Why healing struggles in isolation but grows in community
Reflection for the week:
Audit one small pattern honestly:
The first hour of your morning
The voice you use after a mistake
The last app you check before bed
The stories you rehearse most often
Then change one thing by 10%.
Not dramatically.Just intentionally.
Enough for your brain to notice:“We are doing something differently now.”
Resources & Support
https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/
To connect with Lynette:lynette@llrcoaching.com
Music Credit
Intro and outro music:“Remember” by Sutherland.

How an Identify Shift Changes Everything with Nigel Jones

Nigel Jones is a hypnotherapist, life coach and author of Walking Back to Happiness.
He is over five years alcohol-free — and in this conversation he shares a powerful insight that sits right at the heart of lasting change:
👉 Identity
We talk about why so many people struggle to quit drinking…why willpower alone doesn’t work…and how shifting from “I’m a drinker trying to stop” to “I’m a non-drinker” can change everything.
Nigel explained how repeated attempts to quit failed — until he made one crucial shift: changing his identity.
Instead of seeing himself as “a drinker trying to stop,” he stepped fully into the identity of a non-drinker — and everything changed.
Together, we explored:
Why identity is the foundation of lasting sobriety
How limiting beliefs keep us stuck in the drinking cycle
The “tabletop technique” for dismantling false beliefs about alcohol
Why alcohol promises what sobriety actually delivers
How visualising your future self can accelerate change
The role of environment, community, and “your tribe” in recovery
The surprising physical benefits of quitting — including Nigel’s calculation that he’s saved 26 million heartbeats
Nigel also shared some practical tools from hypnotherapy and coaching that can help you rewire your thinking and build a fulfilling alcohol-free life.
You can contact Nigel via his website….9kmby9am
You can join our 7 day Reset program by clicking on this link 
More Info
This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up todayRead more about our program and subscribe HERE
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Stop Drinking to Truly Living : Your Path to Purpose

From Stopping Drinking to Truly Living: Your Path to Purpose
 
We often talk about stopping drinking… and yes, that is the first powerful step.
But what happens next?
Because for so many of us, alcohol was never the real problem. It was the coping mechanism. The plaster over something deeper — our unhappiness, our uncertainty, our disconnection, our sense that life wasn’t quite working.
In this episode, Lynette shares her personal journey beyond early sobriety — through the flatness of anhedonia, through the discomfort of not knowing, and into the deeper work that truly changed her life.
This is the space where many people struggle…
The space where the old coping mechanisms call us back.
The space where we either return to old patterns — or begin to evolve.
Lynette explores:
Why stopping drinking is just the beginning
The role of uncertainty in keeping us stuck
How outdated beliefs keep us trapped in cycles of “revolving”
The shift from victimhood to personal power
Why real transformation is a daily practice, not a one-time event
At the heart of this episode is a powerful question inspired by Dr Edith Eger
Are you evolving… or revolving?
🌿 A Gentle Invitation
If you are Sober and feeling that pull for something more…
More meaning
More connection
More purpose
More you
Then this may be your moment to go deeper.
Lynette’s Path to Purpose membership is designed for this stage —
the stage beyond stopping drinking, where we begin to free ourselves from old patterns, outdated beliefs, and the mental prisons that keep us stuck.
This is about:
Rewiring your thinking
Releasing emotional and physical tension
Reconnecting to your authentic self
Creating a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and alive
👉 Explore Path to Purpose:
https://www.tribesober.com/path-to-purpose/
 
📩 Or reach out directly to Lynette:
lynette@llrcoaching.com
🎶 Music Credit
Intro and outro music: “Remember” by Sutherland
If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who might need to hear it today.
Because stopping drinking is not the end of the story…
It’s the beginning of your life.

Don't Try Harder...Try Different - with Community Manager Monica

Today I’m joined by my colleague Monica.
She’s the Community Manager for Tribe Sober and she’s also celebrating her 5th Soberversary next week.
I’ve known Monica since her first Day One and it’s giving me such joy to walk alongside her on this life changing journey.
 
In this conversation, we explored:
Why so many people struggle for years before reaching out for help
The trap of trying to do it alone
Why relapse is part of the learning process
The importance of community and connection in recovery
How mindset — not willpower — is the key to lasting change
The danger of “I can have just one” thinking
Practical tips for getting started
Monica shares powerful advice for anyone at the beginning of their journey:👉 Don’t try to do it alone👉 Treat sobriety as a project👉 Plan your alcohol-free life, not your drinking👉 Stay connected and keep showing up👉 And most importantly — don’t try harder, try different
This episode is a reassuring reminder that there is no such thing as failure — only learning — and that with persistence, curiosity, and the right support, lasting change is possible.
More Info
This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up todayRead more about our program and subscribe HERE
Help us to Spread the Word!
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We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.
You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram.
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From Pain to Power - Why your past does not define you

From Pain to Power: Why Your Past Doesn’t Define You
✨ Episode Overview
Have you ever felt like your past is the reason you struggle… the reason you drink… the reason you feel stuck?
In this powerful episode, Lynette explores the truth about our past and how the meaning we give it shapes our present experience.
Drawing from her own journey and coaching experience, Lynette shares how she once believed she was broken — and how rehashing old wounds became part of the cycle that kept her stuck in drinking.
This episode will gently challenge what you believe about your past and offer you a new perspective:
👉 Your past is over
👉 Your power is in what you choose to make it mean
 
If you’ve ever felt held back by your story, this episode will help you begin the shift from pain… to power.
💡 What You’ll Learn
Why your past is not causing your pain today
The difference between what happened and the story you tell about it
How revisiting old wounds can keep you stuck in drinking patterns
Why there is no such thing as “old pain”
How to shift from victim thinking to personal power
A simple process to reframe your past in a way that supports your growth
🔥 Key Takeaway
You don’t need to change your past…
You need to change your relationship to it.
🌱 Resources & Next Steps
✨ Join the Tribe Sober 3-Day Reset (12–14 April)
Led by Tribe Sober Cheerleader Lynne
A powerful opportunity to reset, reconnect, and take your first step forward
👉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/1744287436538124
🎧 Listen to Lynne’s inspiring podcast interview with Janet
From Whiskey to Water — a beautiful story of transformation and possibility
 
💫 Path to Purpose
This is the deeper work Lynette offers — where you learn to rewrite your story, reconnect with your true self, and start living fully, unapologetically, as you
🎶 Music
Intro and outro music Remember by Sutherland
💬 Connect with Lynette : Lynette@llrcoaching.com
If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear this message.
And remember…
 
You don’t have to carry your past forward.
You get to choose who you become from it.
🔖 Hashtags
#TribeSober #SobrietyJourney #AlcoholFreeLife #RecoveryPodcast #MindsetShift #FromPainToPower #SelfLeadership #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #SoberLiving #SoberCurious #ChooseYourStory #YouAreNotBroken #PathToPurpose #TransformationJourney

From Whisky to Water - Lynne's Story

In this episode, I chat to Tribe Sober Ambassador Lynne, who spent years as a “normal” drinker - functioning well on the outside, but quietly questioning her relationship with alcohol.
There was no dramatic rock bottom. No crisis. Just a growing awareness that something wasn’t working anymore.
Lynne shares how her nightly whisky habit slowly increased in quantity and shifted from a reward to something that no longer felt good - and how she found her way to an alcohol-free life that feels calmer, clearer, and more aligned.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your drinking is “bad enough” to change, this conversation will really resonate.
🔑 What We Cover
What it means to be a grey area drinker
How habits quietly become harder to control
Why moderation often doesn’t stick
The subtle signs that alcohol is no longer serving you
Life without alcohol — what actually changes
Why you don’t need a rock bottom to make a change
💬 Key Takeaway
You don’t have to wait for things to fall apart to rethink your drinking.Sometimes the quiet nudge — “this isn’t working anymore” — is more than enough.
👣 Next Steps
If Lynne’s story resonated, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.
👉 Join our 6-week Accelerate programme and start building an alcohol-free life that actually feels good🔗 https://www.tribesober.com/accelerate-2/
 
 

From Rock Bottom to Real Self

📝 Show Notes
🎙️ From Rock Bottom to Real Self: The Power of Returning to Yourself
🎶 Intro & Outro Music: “Remember” by Sutherland
What if rock bottom isn’t the end… but the beginning?
In this episode, Lynette explores the journey from rock bottom—or what we sometimes call a high bottom—into self-leadership, emotional power, and a return to your true self.
Inspired by the story of Alysa Liu, this episode goes far beyond success or achievement. It’s about what happens when we lose ourselves in pressure, expectation, and survival… and how we begin to come back.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking:
“Why can’t I just stop?”
“Is this my rock bottom?”
“I’m sober… now what?”
…this episode is for you.
 
🌿 In This Episode
Why rock bottom can be a turning point—not a failure
The difference between rock bottom and “high bottom”
How nervous system stress and disconnection drive addictive patterns
What it means to lose your sense of self—and how to reclaim it
The shift from performance and people-pleasing → self-leadership
Why recovery is not about becoming someone new, but returning to who you are
A simple way to anchor into identity (what Lynette calls a “power pattern”)
Emotional power: learning to feel without needing to escape
🔑 Key Takeaway
You don’t change your life by trying harder.
You change your life by returning to yourself—
with awareness, with choice, and with authority.
💫 Ready for Support?
If you are still struggling… still slipping… or wondering if you’ve hit your rock bottom—please don’t do this alone.
 
✨ Accelerate Programme (Tribe Sober)
A new programme is launching this weekend.
👉 Contact Tribe Sober to find out more and get started. email Mon@tribesober.com
 
If you’ve had a few months of sobriety and you’re ready to go deeper…
If you’re asking: “I’m sober… now what?”
 
✨ Work with Lynette
Explore one-on-one coaching or mentorship programmes:
👉 Email : Lynette@llrcoaching.com
 
🌊 Final Reflection
What if your past hasn’t broken you…
but initiated you?
And what if this next chapter
is not about fixing yourself…
…but about coming home to yourself?

Understanding Codependency...with Dr Sarah Michaud

In this episode, Janet talks with clinical psychologist Dr Sarah Michaud, who has been sober since 1984 and specialises in addiction and codependency. Sarah shares her powerful recovery story and explains why codependency is often the missing piece in long-term sobriety.
In this episode
Growing up in a family affected by alcoholism
Why addiction often begins as a way to escape emotional pain
The moment that led Sarah to get sober at 24
What codependency really means and how it shows up in relationships
Why trying to fix or control other people never works
How to start setting healthy boundaries in early sobriety
Why guilt is normal when you begin changing people-pleasing patterns
The importance of asking yourself: What do I want? What do I need?
Why asking for help is the first step to recovery
Key message
Recovery isn’t just about stopping drinking. It’s about reconnecting with yourself and learning healthier ways to relate to others.
Resources
Dr Sarah Michaud – Co-Crazy: One Psychologist’s Recovery from Addiction and Codependency
Podcast: Leaving Crazy Town
Website: drsarahmichaud.com
Support: Tribe Sober
More Info
This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up todayRead more about our program and subscribe HERE
Help us to Spread the Word!
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Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you!
We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.
You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram.
PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device)
Open the Podcasts app. EASY.
Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field.
Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).
Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.
Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).